How To Silence Your Inner Mean Girl

If your inner mean girl won’t shut up …you’re not alone. Our thoughts about ourself affect the way we go about our day, how we treat others and have an over all influence on our life. In high school I was burdened gifted with a bust growth spurt. I went from an B to DD. I know a lot of women get their breast enhanced to have DD’s….but I hated them. My clothes had to altered to fit my size 4 bottom frame.  I would focus on how disproportion my body looked and was jealous of my friends who could wear all the cute spaghetti strap tank tops with no bra while I was in a “over the shoulder boulder holder”. The grass is always greener on the other side….so we think.

Glamour magazine says that 97 percent of young women admitted to having at least one “I hate my body” moment daily. We are the beholders of our own beauty. By changing the way we see ourselves from “fat, not perfect, boring, ugly, plain, too skinny, short or not tall enough” to “unique, beautiful, perfect in imperfection and lookin’ amazing in these jeans” we can be filled with nurturing thoughts. We are one-of-a-special kind and designed for a positive purpose. As long as we are eating healthy, exercising and taking care of “us” we should accept “us”. Of the six billion people on this planet, there’s no one just like you. As one child put it, “God don’t make no junk.” So true!

Back to My Voluptuous Figure:

In college I looked into getting a breast reduction. It was recommended I wait until I have children and it wouldn’t be covered by health insurance. Due to financial and baby carrying reasons I held off.

A few months later I answered an ad in Craigslist (before the murders), yes Craigslist, for fit models wanted by talent agency. I signed with Peak Models and Talent who then placed me with top clothing and lingerie companies. Because of my UNIQUE body type and bust size I booked a lot of jobs in the “DD+” niche (Frederick’s bra pictured above). Fit modeling and my big girls helped pay my way through school legitimately. Fit models make an estimated $100 an hour. Not bad for my least favorite body part.

Over a decade later, I’m still working (see photo below). Summers are always slow for businesses and fit consulting for clothing companies helps fill the financial void while all my past, present and future clients were on vacation. My point is: your oddity can become a IMPACTFUL commodity.

When you appreciate and enhance your best traits you can dress, develop and embrace them to the fullest!  Oh, I also met one of my besties, Julie Docherty , modeling. Frida aka our first child was a wedding gift from her. Thank you Jesus for the”big bust” blessings; career in helping others, bestie, husband (one of my first clients) and dog. Amen!

For the record: I tailor most of my wardrobe which makes shopping more challenging. Being prepared eliminates giving up looking and feeling great, temper-tantrums and throwing on a wardrobe that just fits….and doesn’t flatter ninety percent of the time. Hey, I’m not perfect!

5 Recommended Readings For Silencing Your Inner Mean Girl:

  1. Beauty From Ashes by Joyce Meyer
  2. The Mind Connection by Joyce Meyer
  3. Creating a Charmed Life by Victoria Moran
  4. Goddesses Never Age by Christine Northrup, M.D. 
  5. Ultimate Guide to Style: From Drab to Fab!(of course!) by Rayne Parvis and Nicole Drake

To learn more about ways to feel sexy no matter what your height or size, listen to our Girl Boner Chat with August McLaughlin here or watch the video here below. The episode also features Shannon Hammer, a healthy living advocate who overcame decades of disordered eating.

If you have any tips or favorite books that have changed your life please leave them in the comments below.

Yay you!